MWM, mid-50s, successful professional, NYC area, seeks MF for long-term e-mail penpal…and the possibility of meeting. I’ve been married a long time — and, unfortunately, there’s not much fun and excitement left in it. I’d love to compare notes with a woman in a similar situation … and, in particular, with an intelligent and sensitive woman who loves to craft thoughtful e-mails on a regular basis. Just to be clear: I am interested in exchanging “thoughtful” e-mails, not salacious ones. Learning about someone initially through text alone can be a wonderful experience. If everything were to click and we were both ready … then we might decide to meet. But first… let’s just write. About me: I’m a lawyer, Ivy educated, reasonable looks. I’m not pompous nor arrogant — and consider myself a good listener. I enjoy long conversations about anything and everything…the political, the personal and everything in between. Continue reading

81 yr. old MWM living alone in southern Westchester. Gym fit and enjoying 2 mile walks and 12 mile bike rides. I’m a retired Ph.D. psychologist who enjoys being outdoors, gardening, music and stimulating conversation. Hoping to meet a fit, educated over age 65 female for fun and friendship. Man seeking woman, New York area. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with username chazzy as subject.

I live a comfortable, financially secure life in a small East Bay town, practicing law on a reduced schedule that leaves time for reading, painting, listening to good music, exercising, playing golf, and spending time with a number of close friends. My marriage lost any romantic quality more than a decade ago and I miss the affection and intimacy essential to a full, rich life. I hope to meet a mature, independent woman in similar circumstances who is interested in creating a unique, committed, private 2-person universe apart from her own secure but emotionally unfulfilled existence. I am 67, 5’8”, fit, and healthy. Will send further details and photos once our correspondence shows we have something special in common. Man seeking woman, San Francisco area. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with username traddles as subject.

Healthy 56 year old progressive pragmatic male with an array of interests including travel, reading, writing, politics/public affairs, various genres of music and propensity for simple living seeks like-minded female partner from late twenties to early fifties who shares similar interests or perspectives. For fitness, I run and adhere to a healthy diet. Like other physical/outdoor activities as well and desire to share those with a partner. Low TV consumption except for PBS and some athletics. Prefer NPR or community radio. 5’7″, 150 lbs., br/br. I try to maintain balance in diet, lifestyle, low alcohol intake, and be politically active/engaged. Primary career has been in business field, but educational services in recent years. If you like to engage in intellectually curious pursuits at times and simpler ones at others, believe that a relationship can be mutually enriching and that sharing and growing together on the journey is more rewarding than doing it alone, I welcome the opportunity to hear from you. Man seeking woman. Reply to freethinker56@verizon.net.

Guess I am just looking for that girl on her tippy toes. “What does that mean?” she said. Read on. It will become crystal clear …. Mid-March in NYC. Spring is around the corner. The weather is changing — even if we did have a bit of snow last week. But still spring is in the air. Need evidence? That March Madness of NCAA hoops begins next week. Baseball begins shortly (Yankee fan). The homestretch of the NY Rangers. And the spring street fairs of NYC in April and May. Nothing beats a sausage and peppers hero from a cart at a street fair in the city! But all these things are much better experienced with someone else. Might that be you? Do you feel the same way? Perhaps this outlet can solve our mutual dilemma. Given that, I decided to toss my hat into cyberspace and see what it kicks back. You are there reading this post as I decided to post. Random? You tell me … Continue reading

I characterize myself as more becoming than being. 59, 6’2″, good health (bit of a gym rat, swim every other day, bike getting repaired), resident of Brooklyn Heights. Looking for a lasting love — one who’ll have my back as much as I have hers. One who recognizes that any relationship has conflict -– how a couple manage it defines a vibrant, growing relationship. Would like to hold her hand, walking elegantly, now as well in our dotage. Would like to prepare her tea as a nightcap as we read then hold each other all night. Would like us to share life’s ups and downs. Interests and pastimes? Besides reading what everyone else reads on this site, histories, biographies, literature (80% non-fiction, 20% fiction). Music: Ravel, Debussy, Britten, Rimsky-Korsakov, Coltrane, Steely Dan, Pearl Jam, operas, BBC3 radio. Prefer movies to shows, have membership to Film Forum. Met Museum member, will also find me at MOMA, Morgan Library, the Frick, and the Whitney. Continue reading

A Preppy in Virginia. Born and raised in New York City. Left after college. Have lived in England, Ireland, Spain, Bermuda, Canada, Texas, North Dakota, California, Puerto Rico, Massachusetts, Maryland, District of Columbia, Virginia, Pennsylvania, Florida, South Carolina, Connecticut, New Jersey and Rhode Island. A news and political junkie, I hold multiple graduate degrees. I have spent much of my career in the nonprofit world. Am also a consultant in funding, software, research, customer service, board training and education, strategic planning, healthcare, education and general nonprofit philanthropy. Avid sailor, ice hockey fanatic, enjoy horse racing, polo, lacrosse, Irish and American folk music, reading, classical music, travel, good food, good wine, Sunday New York Times, daily Washington Post, the New Yorker, The Daily Beast, the Economist, Money and Esquire. Love living in Virginia, but open to other places. Currently reading “The Starboard Sea” by Amber Dermont. Annually read “The Catcher in the Rye”. Continue reading

Retired attorney who plays the violin in string quartet and orchestra. I am 72 and live in Berkley, Michigan (not California), which is a suburb of Detroit. Am kind, considerate, intelligent, have a sense of humor and am intellectually curious about world events. Read the New Yorker and NY Times regularly. Interested in a woman who is intelligent, warm and romantic. Man seeking woman. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with username man48067 as subject.

Brad Pitt lookalike, 64, seeks Victoria’s Secret model adept at artisanal pizza. Ahem. I’m an unrepentant advertising copywriter, part aging hipster, part bookish INTJ, part rimshot comic. Not surprisingly, I like arty film (think the Janus Films logo), serious fiction (M. Amis, Oates, Mann, Kafka), the blues and jazz (the Kings, Coltrane, et al). More detail is yours for the clicking at HN235 on OKCupid. Man seeking woman. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with username hn235 as subject.

Liberal, intense, wry, wise — NYC man, 62, attractive, clean cut, 5’10″, trim/fit, politically engaged, many avid intellectual, worldly and cultural interests, given to Mozart, Monet and malbecs (and not above a little alliteration, either), comes with a veddy, veddy dry sense of humor, seeks woman of similar heart and depth for conversation, shared cultural excursions and whatever might ensue. Man seeking woman. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with username Excelsior as subject.

Thank you for reading my advertisement. I am a fit healthy successful man, age 63, widower. I have a technical BS with an unusual minor in English Lit and a night MBA; both from SE Conference schools. I am a published and referenced technical author. I enjoy reading, working out at the gym, contract bridge, and cooking. I have spent the past 35 years leading and managing large technical projects throughout the emerging world. I am looking for a smart, fit, healthy, successful in her field, dominant lady who is seeking late in life romance with a man who is her intellectual and ethical peer; but where she would enjoy and find satisfaction in being sexually dominant. I am a still employed Fortune 100 executive who still seeks to still make a difference in the world. Thank you. Man seeking woman. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with username Brooksmith as subject.

To be absolutely candid, this parallel universe of on-line dating repulses me. The artifice and linearity that characterize the milieu is something I’ve always rejected. Women have always, quite simply, ‘been there,’ as a logical extrapolation of being alive in the world. For reasons I don’t entirely understand, that’s no longer true. I suspect the peripatetic life I’ve led in the last two 1/2 years…since my divorce…is a causal vector. Random thoughts: 57, 5’9″, 145 lbs, shoulder-length silver/brown curly/wavy hair, small, very neat and closely cropped goatee, sometimes glasses. Former U.S. Army Special Forces…in a galaxy far, far away…politically left, revolted by the societal macrocosm that fails to believe that a human…simply by virtue of existence, has an intrinsic right to safe shelter, medical care, and nourishing food…Ivy MBA, classic investment banker, senior level corporate IT executive. Continue reading

NY man, 67, into all that is art. Books, film, theater, museums, especially MOMA and its wonderful film program, and galleries and romantic meals steeped in lively conversation thrill me. Slim, exercise daily, live a healthy lifestyle, liberal politically, financially and emotionally secure, well traveled and adventurous, I seek a partner for pleasure and serious bonding. I choose my own challenges in a wide variety of media projects and also love to walk. THE NEW YORKER and NYRB are important to me along with my daily dose of the NY TIMES. Man seeking woman. Contact me directly at srbrok7@gmail.com.

‘Sometimes I feel so carefree with a love that’s hard to share’. British, exiled in Manhattan. My wife had a stroke in 2009, and has been in a home since. Retired, loyal, aged 76. Enjoys ‘As Life goes By’, and ‘The Simpsons’. Avoids the New York cultural avalanche, prefers quiet moments. Not a gourmet, dancer or driver. Sartre-an Existentialist. Needs to loved and be loved by an easy-going and understanding woman. ‘Cry forever meridian through the courters’ lanes’. Man seeking woman, New York area. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with username davetwice as subject.

Married South Asian male, late 40s. Professionally accomplished in the financial industry. Unfulfilled in current relationship. Would like to meet a woman — possibly in a similar situation — to talk to and explore common interests. Possibly more. If it interests you, we could attend music recitals, explore exhibits at the Met or do a bike ride along the Hudson. Then again, if you like modern dance, I am happy to watch and learn. Man seeking woman, New York area. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with username Reading Fowles as subject.

The most interesting man you will ever meet seeks same in a woman. I’m sort of retired, sculptor with a passion for evolutionary mammalian anatomy. I know why we became human and what made the mitochondrial Eve different from her mom. Excellent sense of humor and I have never broken any mirrors. Age 67 and in great shape, anticipating the next 100 years. Divorced with two sons and 4 grandchildren. Emphasis on “grand”. I am on the Blue Ridge in Virginia although I was born and raised in upstate NY and lived in NYC for a time. Polymath. I don’t like jazz but love Classical as well as Celtic. Too many books to count, 99% non-fiction such as history, art, anthropology, archaeology, etc.. Love theater, ballet, and cinema. Hike, walk, backpack, canoe, sail. I am what Thoreau would be if he had not had TB. Man seeking woman. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with username arne97 as subject.

60ish 6′ male living in Florida. Has been a: civil rights worker, peace corps volunteer, corporate banker, 5 star hotel owner, author of a book on South American wines and restaurateur. Lived most of my adult life in Rio de Janeiro. Looking for an exciting, intellectual and sensual woman who has also lived an interesting life and wants much more. Man seeking woman. quenedemais@yahoo.com.

47-year old, 5’8″, handsome, successful Wall Streeter (on the wealth management side — we didn’t cause the mess!), lifetime reader who is highly educated and funny, and values intelligent wit in a woman. I am a strange combination of almost equal left and right brain. I’m also very visual and enjoy beauty, including a sexy woman with dangerous curves, a great smile, and sparkling eyes. But what will really win my heart is a quick wit who is both interesting and interested. I have a lot to give to the right woman and would love to spend time with her either in my UWS brownstone apt, my condo on the beach in Miami, or traveling in Europe or Latin America. Let’s have some amazing adventures together! I’m seeking a woman in the NYC area (preferably Manhattan or who comes here often) who’s sick of the dating scene but refuses to settle. She should be in her 20s, 30s, or early 40s (I know, pretty huge age range but what the hell). Continue reading

I’m 53, “retired” from the US Air Force (retired is a misnomer…), living in Dayton, OH. I’ve been divorced since ’98 and we didn’t have kids, so I’m childless. I’m not afraid of commitment. I believe I bring happiness. I am honest. I saw the ad for this site in my favorite magazine, the New Yorker, and I get my information from many sources. I am more likely to ask a question than to make a declarative statement. I’d like to meet someone similar. A woman gets more beautiful to me the more she makes me laugh and think. Man seeking woman. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with username 45419-007 as subject.

Hi there — second try here, first got no reaction, seems that editing is frowned upon and the only option is the do-over. OK. So what interests me? I am a little more grouchy than I was before, a few days ago, when I was trying to draw you in. OK, here goes. The New Yorker — a lot of stuff about how great New York is; a lot of retrospectives on people who wrote for the New Yorker. Very self-regarding. I’ll barf if I see another article about how real New Yorkers go out for Chinese on Thanksgiving. Please — get over yourselves. Roger Angell on baseball? Old, old stuff. NPR — OK, I have a word for this, and the word is “glib.” Think “Marketplace”; “Wait wait don’t tell me!”; think self-important reviews of Coltrane re-releases and heretofore unreleased Beatles tapes; the reverence for low-brow takes my breath away. Continue reading