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Sensitive male model with trust fund, 66, seeks Victoria’s Secret model adept at artisanal pizza. Funny, limited response. They must be shyer than they look. OK, history suggests a dead-white-guy academic, with a feminist overlay, that I can amuse and only occasionally offend. I know you’re out there. Oh, about me. I remain an unrepentant and active advertising copywriter. I’m part aging hipster, part bookish INTJ and part rimshot comic. Predictably, I like arty film (think the Janus Films logo), serious fiction (M. Amis, Oates, Mann, Kafka), the blues and jazz (the Kings, Coltrane, et al) and prefer a big city at high noon or midnight to the most serene of pastoral settings.

Finally, truth in advertising:
I’m 5′ 3″, so we probably won’t shoot baskets much. I’m also stuck in a small southern town until my house sells.

Enchanted? Outraged? Anything but indifferent works for me.

Man seeking woman. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with username hn235 as subject.

Hello. I’m 41, smart, funny, creative, intellectually curious, considerate and too humble to admit to being any of those except the first. My main interests are history, literature, art and movies old and new, and I’d like to meet a woman, late 30s to early 40s and in the Dallas-Fort Worth area, who shares those interests and who has a sense of humor and is kind. Let’s get to know each other and see where it goes from there. Man seeking woman. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with username jayg68 as subject.

Looking for a man, 45-60, who wants to say yes to life and share the best of it. I’m a successful writer and very un-pedantic professor. It would be nice if you’re successful at something you care about, are open, are kind and intelligent. I enjoy the usual activities: literary events, walks, museums, theater, movies, the occasional wtf out of left field to mix it up. Also: smiling, chatting, getting to know someone, having my hand kissed. I wouldn’t be averse to taking swing dance lessons with someone who’d find that fun. I could add to the list but the truth is, if you get me and make me laugh (and vice versa) we can work out the details. I’m slender and attractive. Write me a note and maybe we’ll exchange words and photos. Woman seeking man, New York area. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with nevertheless as subject.

Slim, blond Chicago editor with style and substance, addicted to badinage and politics as a spectator sport, seeks a fine wreck of a man 73+ who has both oars in the water. Moxie a must, panache a plus. Woman seeking man, Chicago area. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with username Natalie Attired as subject.

Wanted: an adventuress. You are a striking, unusual woman in your forties or early fifties. You are extraordinarily quick and well-educated — so much so you have generally intimidated men, or else they’ve failed to appreciate your qualities, your humor. You’ve seen much of the world, most of it off the tourist routes. You are energetic, imaginative, sexually creative. I am the man who appreciates your qualities, and wants them to blossom and glow. I will make you laugh; I’ll also take you into conversations full of great stories, unexpected insights, things you didn’t know. I’m one of the most creative men you’ll ever meet. At the same time, though, I’m a great listener, and I want to be with someone who can talk about anything. There’s nothing I like more than giving an interesting, attractive woman the very best of my attention. Continue reading

What’s in your front hallway? Hiking boots? Baseball cleats? Dance shoes? I’m looking for a man in his 40s who lives in his body as well as his head. We don’t have to love the same things. The important part is that you are as passionate about your physical pursuits as you are about your intellectual ones. I am a slim, petite woman. A good day for me is one spent outdoors or on the dance floor. A small-business owner fortunate to have creativity and learning at the center of my work, I truly love my job. I pay attention to my spiritual life and hope you do, too, though I am open about the form that it might take. I am more comfortable in small groups than large ones, unless the large group is there to dance! Continue reading

New York Area woman, late 60s. Attractive, fit, down-to-earth woman who loves walking, reading, nature, and the arts, seeks man with similar interests. I’m a published non-fiction writer now trying out drawing. Value staying intellectually alive and learning new things and hope you do, too. Find myself moved by the simple beauty of nature, a well-done painting, poem, novel or essay, human kindness, true friendship, a tender touch. Woman seeking man, New York area. Email your reply to replies@thouhtfulPersonals.com with username artsandculture as subject.

A young African American female looks for a long lasting love and companionship. I am petite and stand five feet tall; you must be a few inches taller than me☺! I grew up in West Africa; but have been a New Yorker over two decades. I am a professional working on mission-driven projects to better urban communities and lives. I am a bit of the intellectual type, into meaningful conversations (philosophy, science, politics, economics and spiritualism), with an artistic/creative side. I like off-off Broadway shows, live jazz venues and museums. I enjoy hiking, downhill skiing, meditation, yoga and any outdoors activities. I am into healthy eating and like staying in shape but not a gym rat. You must like staying in shape and eating healthy. I am a vegetarian and prefer a vegetarian; meaning you do not eat meat/fish/poultry or any animal with beating heart, brain or blood. Continue reading

MWM, mid-50s, successful professional, NYC area, seeks MF for long-term e-mail penpal…and the possibility of meeting. I’ve been married a long time — and, unfortunately, there’s not much fun and excitement left in it. I’d love to compare notes with a woman in a similar situation…and, in particular, with an intelligent and sensitive woman who loves to craft thoughtful e-mails on a regular basis. Just to be clear: I am interested in exchanging “thoughtful” e-mails, not salacious ones. Learning about someone initially through text alone can be a wonderful experience. If everything were to click and we were both ready…then we might decide to meet. But first…let’s just write. About me: I’m a lawyer, Ivy educated, reasonable looks. I’m not pompous nor arrogant — and consider myself a good listener. I enjoy long conversations about anything and everything…the political, the personal and everything in between. Continue reading

Political junkie seeks same. 55 y.o. SWM seeks SF who is well read, enjoys talking politics and books esp over a nice bottle of red. Some fav authors include, Gore Vidal, Christoper Hitchens, Joseph Epstein and Dwight McDonald. Also reg Rachel Maddow watcher. I am very social and outgoing love being out meeting people. 6ft tall 185 lbs in excellent condition. Love to walk / hike. Have traveled to 25 plus countries. Currently living in Scottsdale, AZ. Seeking SF who is slender / fit. Man seeking woman. Responses to jsirull3000@yahoo.com.

You me we us. Guess I am just looking for that girl on her tippy toes. “What does that mean?” she said. Read on. It will become crystal clear… Brrr! Baby it is cold outside in NYC. Fall is turning into winter slowly but surely. Holidays around the corner as well as winter. Thanksgiving next week. And Christmas. And the new year of 2014. This time of year makes single people feel, well, a bit more ‘single’. And not in a good way. Perhaps you feel the same way. That’s where you come in. Perhaps this outlet can solve our mutual dilemma. Given that, I decided to toss my hat into cyberspace and see what it kicks back. You are there reading this post as I decided to post. Random? You tell me… Continue reading

Sophisticated opera, theatre and museum buff. Lucky enough to live in a city with an amazingly wide variety of cultural delights, the District of Columbia. I dance Argentine tango and am an occasional opera supernumerary. A few key facts: majored in Classical Civilization, did some modeling in my youth (and occasionally in the present) and have written for alternative weeklies. I seem like a tough girl, but if you have the right touch, you’ll see the absolute marshmallow underneath. I vote in every election (very much a progressive). Currently on heavy rotation on my iPod: Hello It’s Me (Todd Rundgren, false start album version), Madness (Muse), Feed the Animals (Girl Talk – my workout music), Poema (Francisco Canaro). Early 50s, 5’3, 107 lbs. You?? Surprise me… Woman seeking man. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with username Brenda as subject.

Although my life is rich, interesting and varied, I miss that special glow one experiences when there’s a like-minded guy around to share the fire, the music, the wine, the travels and all the other good stuff. And what better way than to reach out to other readers of my favorite magazine! If you’re a 70ish man who is, like me, upbeat eclectic, ageless, energetic and in shape — and you live in New Jersey, Bucks County or Manhattan, you might want to meet this petite, slim, pretty woman with blue blue (sic) eyes and blondish hair. I live near Princeton where I enjoy the rich environment of music, art, film, theater, lectures and like-minded friends. My addictions include the New Yorker — thank you for leading me to thoughtfulPersonals — and the New York Times. Passions are huge lobsters, reading — many genres — theater, music, long walks, the ocean, the Rockies, film (this was my 16th Labor Day weekend at the Telluride Film Festival), and life itself. Continue reading

Attorney, 67, 5’8”, fit, and healthy, located in the San Francisco Bay Area, interested in an exclusive, committed liaison with a self-confident, thoughtful, athletic lady who has an appreciation for good music, literature, wine, conversation, art, and the outdoors. Further details and photos on request. Man seeking woman, San Francisco area. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with username traddles as subject.

I characterize myself as more becoming than being. 60, 6’2″, good health (bit of a gym rat, swim every other day, bike), live near Princeton, right on NE Corridor (Amtrak, NJ Transit) rail line. Looking for a lasting love — one who’ll have my back as much as I have hers. One who recognizes that any relationship has conflict -– how a couple manage it defines a vibrant, growing relationship. Would like to hold her hand, walking elegantly, now as well in our dotage. Would like to prepare her tea as a nightcap as we read then hold each other all night. Would like us to share life’s ups and downs. Interests and pastimes? Besides reading what everyone else reads on this site, histories, biographies, literature (80% non-fiction, 20% fiction). Music: Ravel, Debussy, Britten, Rimsky-Korsakov, Coltrane, Steely Dan, Pearl Jam, operas, BBC3 radio. Prefer movies to shows. Met Museum member, you’ll also find me at MOMA, Morgan Library, the Frick, and the Whitney. Slavophile, Francophile, Anglophile. Continue reading

Daring and chivalrous // 32 years young // Seeking a stunning and passionate female for sincere companionship. Blessed with handsomeness, this charming soul radiates positivity and wit to brighten your days to come. Professionally minded and accomplished is the tune and expecting to hear the same. May this catch your eye and spark your interest. Man seeking woman, New York area. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with username CarpeDiemNYC as subject.

Whereas not a full fledged member of the erudite set, I balance it by being a slender good looking blonde, so how smart must one be! I am a witty wonderful bundle of energy, who easily transitions from being playfully entertaining to probingly curious. Others have tagged me as being unique, sensual and unforgettable. I derive infinite enjoyment delving into discussions on the ever fascinating nature of the human animal, to indulging my taste sensations with mouth watering delectables. Beyond the humor and vibrant personality, masks a tender soul. I am a 58 year old MWF in a relationship which ended its physical intimacies a decade past. I seek more than a lover, I seek an enlivened soulful connection which might add a bit of color to both our worlds. Make no mistake, I am a find. It is merely a matter if you’d care to go out treasure hunting. Woman seeking man, Los Angeles area. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with username Aprecipice as subject.

Living in the south implies having to negotiate rather obvious obstacles to meeting a like-minded guy. The buckle of the Bible-belt is not without its detractors, however, as a Unitarian-Universalist I’ve managed to solidify a support-system that sustains me. My primary residence is Nashville & I maintain a retreat in Highlands, a vibrant arts community nestled atop the mountainous Nantahala National Forest in southwestern North Carolina (near Asheville). Being self-employed allows loads of freedom, so I’m prone to sudden bursts of wanderlust. I tend to shun typical tourist haunts, opting instead for the less urban in oft-overlooked areas. I seek the unknown, although the unknown is increasingly rare. As a serious triathlete I spend a lot of time alone, yet, am eager to devote energy towards cultivating a lasting friendship with one who shares similar values. Continue reading

A funny thing happened on the way to middle age — my feet began to feel erotic. Fluffy socks, Wolford stockings, fur-lined clogs, all give me a warming sensation and glow. How quaint. How hilarious. How I wish I had someone to share all this with — especially as I’m a MWF, ignored at home. At age 57, curvy but with long legs, slender ankles and high arches, I’m seeking a kind, humorous MWM who craves giving tender foot massages as part of a complete erotic experience. Let’s go see the musical Kinky Boots before it closes, and start a conversation. I live in Chicago, so travel to NYC would have to be planned. Woman seeking man, Chicago and New York areas. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with username higharches as subject.

Don’t need to fall in love, my heart already opens to trees, clouds, and song, but I miss the closeness of a loving relationship. It would be sweet to find a companion to share the awe of lightning storms, curl up in front of a fire in winter, witness life’s mysteries together… Here in Asheville, North Carolina, surrounded by the Appalachian mountains, trees will soon turn golden again. I’m 62, gentle nature, enjoy living at a slow enough pace to take in what’s around me, value warmth and laughter. Widowed for three years now, I sing with a joyous chorus, paint with watercolor because I love how paint and water flow together, watch birds visit the feeder (except when the bears roam the neighborhood—yes, in the city.) Who knows where the path will lead… Woman seeking man. Email your reply to replies@thoughtfulPersonals.com with username owldancer as subject.